We all have the power to change our narrative, to not dwell on the negative and to start living a life of positivity. At some point we have to do the work to put our past behind us and become the best version of ourselves despite the things that have happened to us or around us. We deserve it and we owe it to ourselves to move past it.

There is no doubt about it, there are difficult chapters in life. Most of us have had to deal with challenging situations of varying details. Some of these situations broke us up into a million little pieces and I’m sure were hard as hell to put back together and may still be. Other things weren’t as big but still impacted us and our life.

Sure we can dwell on our past and get stuck there. We can feel sorry for ourselves. We can assume that we have to do something a certain way because that’s how we were taught even though it’s detrimental to our growth. We can continue to do something, feel something or think about something the same way we always have but the truth is— nothing will ever improve for us.

The thing is, we have to do the work to overcome the things that hold us back because the reality is that these things limit our potential to be our best selves. They limit our ability to move forward—to dream and to achieve.

Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is the definition of insanity. I’m going to take that one step forward and say that doing the same things that do not nurture our truest self over and over is insanity. It’s madness. 

At some point we have to wake up and decide that these hard, hurtful, negative chapters of our lives do not define our life. We are not tied to them. Sure they exsist. Sure they hurt. Sure they’re hard as hell to move past but nothing that’s worth it comes easily.  It takes work.

This work looks differently for everyone and that’s perfectly okay because this is about you and only you.  Some of us need therapy, some need to set boundaries, some need to journal and dive deep into their souls to figure things out. Whatever way you need to deal with your hard to read chapters— deal with them. Overcome them.

I’ve seen therapists off and on in my life. Twice to be exact. One time was in high school because I had an eating disorder. The second was in adulthood when I suffered severe anxiety.  These sessions were just okay. They helped a little bit but I knew myself and what I really needed to overcome these obstacles was self work. I am a self motivated person and I knew I needed to research and find the tools that would help me through the chapters of my life that were hard for me to read. So that’s what I did. I read. I implemented what I read and I did the work.  This worked for me. It might not work for you. And that is okay! The important thing is that you explore your options to help you work through these obstacles and you pick something that works for you.

Don’t get stuck in a narrative that you haven’t written for yourself. Rewrite it. It will take work but I promise it will be worth it. You are worth it.

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